A Decade of Mom Life

I have a lot of emotion as my oldest son turns 10 on March 21. Looking back, I thought I had an idea of what motherhood would look like. I thought I would do things a certain way and my child would naturally follow suit. All these hopes, desires, and dreams I have had for him and for myself. Some have been squashed, some reborn into something more significant, some of which God has yet to reveal to me.

When I was pregnant with Joah, I would rub my giant belly, praying and dreaming he would be an energetic and playful boy. It wasn't long before I realized the Lord had hugely answered my prayer! Little Joah operated on full steam 24 hours a day, seven days a week! So much, in fact, it's made his young life journey difficult at times. Over the years, the term ADHD has occasionally been used from his caregivers. We've not officially tested Joah, but we did recognize his struggle to focus coupled with high energy. In western medicine, the popular route is to prescribe medication, which works well for many families. It has long been my desire to raise my children using a natural, holistic approach to health whenever possible. Based on this, medicating Joah was not an option we wished to explore. With much prayer, consideration, and seeking other avenues, we began moving forward in a way that felt right for us.

For the last five years, Joah has had a full range of holistic treatments to help balance his brain and body. We follow a specific diet of gluten/dairy free, and low sugar. He takes about 10 supplements daily, uses essential oils daily, practices yoga and breathing exercises, utilizes play therapist, does Brain Balancing (SOI- Sensory output integration), chiropractics, sees a naturopath, daily prayer and meditation on scripture. Not all of this happens all at once, and many treatments are now completed or only as needed. As you can imagine, this approach has been tediously time consuming and extremely costly as it isn't covered by insurance. The progress has been slow but steady and at times frustrating because it's not a quick fix. Despite all this, God gave us the best possible path to follow Joah's health! In the last 7 months, we can see he has turned a corner and had tremendous growth mentally, socially, emotionally and behaviorally.  We praise the Lord for giving us the strength, wisdom, and energy to persevere, as well as providing us with amazing holistic health providers.

So, as we celebrate our Joah bear turning 10, I overflow with joy for the young man my son is becoming! He is noticeably different, in all the right ways. He loves being outdoors and riding his bike. He enjoys going to school and has some precious, sweet friends. He's discovered music and began playing the viola, recorder, with drum lessons next! He is a great little basketball player and takes golf lessons so we can play as a family. He is sensitive in nature, has a unique sense of humor (much like mine), is kind, and smart. If anything is classified as adventuresome or thrilling, he wants to do it! He likes climbing (rocks, trees, buildings), rope swings, snow skiing, go karts, and water sports. In the home, I am teaching him to be self-sufficient by cooking, doing his own laundry, cleaning various parts of the house and taking out the trash. I have enjoyed bringing Joah into my professional work. To date, we've done two magazine publications together, two appearances on TV, and he has been my co-host on stage speaking to our church congregation on Mother's Day. It is not uncommon for one of his teachers to tell me "Joah is a really happy kid." As a mother, I couldn't ask for more than for my son to be happy and to know God.  Joah truly loves life!

I have come to accept that motherhood is a refining process for my soul. It is one-way God sanctifies me to be more like Jesus. It hasn't looked like what I had initially hoped for, but I wouldn't change a thing. I am confident the highest calling at this life stage is to shepherd my two boys as they grow into men.

Thank you, Lord, for allowing me to be Joah's mama, I am enjoying this faith walk alongside my firstborn boy. Proverbs 22:6

Your Insightful Life

No matter what age our children are, there may be hardship and challenge. Acknowledge what you are struggling with today regarding your son or daughter and take it to prayer. God knows and cares about your situation and will provide clear direction if you ask him for it.


Lord Jesus, thank you for blessing me with my child(ren). I pray for them to know you in a profound way and for them to be successful in your eyes. Help me to parent them well, no matter what stage of life they are in. In Jesus name, Amen!

Consider It Pure Joy

My first son Joah was born March 21, 2009, on the first day of spring. My labor lasted over 48 hours, and as I pushed out my baby, it was apparent something was wrong. I watched as the doctor was patting his newborn body while saying, “Come on baby, breathe!” Quickly, Joah was whisked away to the far end of the room. The doctor looked me in the eye and said, “There are about to be a lot of people in here.” As he said that, the doors flew open and a trauma team began working on my son. Everything became so surreal as I stared on in disbelief. In a flash, I recalled the scripture Jesus had given me regarding my pregnancy. Luke 1:45 said, “Blessed is she who believes what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished.” Instantaneously, peace flooded my body, and I undoubtedly knew Joah would be okay. I started looking around at all the faces present for my birth, emphatically repeating, “He is going to be okay! He is going to be okay!” They sadly smiled at me as if delusional. It didn’t matter, I truly believed God’s word and that Joah was going to come forth and live!

We spent a week of what felt like hell in the NICU. Joah’s little body endured test after grueling test. Miraculously, he passed every one of them. By God’s grace, he was deemed “healthy,” and doctors found no medical explanation for his traumatic birth. I believe Joah’s birth was a foreshadowing as to what became our reality. The next year of life was extremely challenging. Joah was a fussy, colicky baby while I was a lonely, depressed, and exhausted new mom.  Much of my mental, physical, and spiritual self-care went out the door. Never in a million years did I envision motherhood being like this. I found myself feeling stuck in the “Why,” often questioning, “Why is this happening to me?”

Have you ever felt you’ve had more than your fair share of trials? Do you often question, “Why is this happening to me?” James 1:2-4 says, “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” Let’s face it, trials serve a purpose. According to the scripture, they increase our faith and help us persevere. When we persevere, our spiritual maturity increases. As believers, we are born into the kingdom as mere infants. Without life challenges, our faith stagnates, keeping us spiritually immature. The joy comes in knowing that the trials we endure are making us stronger, more dependent on Christ, growing ever closer to Him.

Over the years, I have learned there are simple ways to persevere well. I have quit asking “Why is this happening to me” and now ask God “How am I to respond to this difficult situation?”

If you are going through severe trials, pick up your spiritual tools and persevere!

Pray regularly and often for wisdom, guidance and direction in your trial.  Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. Mathew 7:7-8

Ask people to intercede and pray for you. For where two or three gathers in my name, there am I with them. Mathew 18:20

Select scripture and journal about it in relation to your circumstance. For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope. Romans 15:4

Reach out to a trusted friend or counselor who can encourage and speak truth in your life.  The purpose in a man's heart is like deep water, but a man of understanding will draw it out. Proverbs 20:5

No one in this life will escape trying circumstances. Find the joy in knowing God is for you, helping you faithfully persevere with His mighty love, power, grace, and truth! 

 Your Insightful Life

Are you in a life trial? Do you wonder “why” this is happening to you? Try responding differently by asking God “How” and “What” you can do in this situation. The above spiritual tools will get you started in the right direction.


Father God, I pray I can understand what to do amidst my trials. May my attitude be one of joy as I know you are growing my faith and trust in you. I pray I may persevere and pick up the spiritual tools you lay at my feet to help me along the way. In Jesus Name, Amen.

Taming the Tongue

One of the most powerful gifts God created in humans, is the ability to speak. The meaning, volume, and tone of our words can build up or tear down. In fact, Ephesians 4:29 says “let no unwholesome word come out of your mouth, but only that which is good for building up.” Have you been on the receiving end of harsh, critical words…words that pierced your heart like a dagger? Sadly, many of us can relate. For children, this is a traumatic environment to live in. As for adults, we tend to shut down emotionally and our relationships suffer.

Let’s be honest, some of us are the ones spewing our venom at others. If you can’t speak without yelling, ranting, slandering, criticizing, or judging another, listen up! The scriptures are very clear on this issue. What comes out of your mouth is directly related to what is in your heart, as “out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks.” (Luke 6:45). Since this is a heart issue, it’s vital to acknowledge what’s taking place in your spirit. What are you angry, resentful, or bitter about? God gave us feelings which are a good thing. However, aiming our feelings at others (because we’re spiritually disturbed) is sinful. (Eph 4:26). Our goal is to “be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.” (James 1:19).

Before you speak, ASK YOURSELF these simple questions:

•    Is what I am going to say kind, loving or uplifting?

•    Is what I am going to say honest and true? If so, can I speak the truth in love?

•    Is my tone of voice calm?

•    Do I need to say this right now? Is there a better time to discuss this?

•    Are my motives God-honoring?

If you CAN’T answer “Yes” to each question, consider Proverbs 141:3 and “ask the Lord to set a guard over your mouth” while practicing the fruit of the spirit of self-control.

If you give full vent to your anger and lack self-control, pray and ask God for help. Meditate daily on scriptures regarding speech and let the words soak into your heart!

•    Whoever guards his mouth preserves his life; he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin. Proverbs 19:3

•    Whoever restrains his words has knowledge, and he who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding. Proverbs 17:21

•    There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Proverbs 12:18

•    But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth. Colossians 3:8

•    May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer. Psalm 119:14

With God’s help, you can change the way you communicate with others. Your words can bring peace, healing, understanding, love, and light to those around you. You can go from tearing down another to building them up, which is of great importance and pleasing to God!

Your Insightful Life

Dear Jesus,

Please help me to speak and think in ways that are honoring you. May I be aware of my tone of voice, my word choice, and the intention of my speech. May it build people up and be a reflection of your love! In your name, we pray, Amen.

How to Thrive This Holiday Season

Usually, I love kicking off the holidays with Thanksgiving as I focus on gratitude for the life the Lord has given me. Unfortunately, last Thanksgiving ended like a bad case of indigestion, totally sour. As I sat down at the dinner table to dive into my favorite part of the meal, the turkey and dressing, criticism was hurled across the table like a dagger, piercing my heart. I sat there stunned and deeply hurt by the words directed at me but I did what the Lord would want me to do. I responded with grace.

I have to admit the most wonderful time of the year can be a challenge as so much of it revolves around the intermingling of family. The strong personalities, the cutting remarks, and the crazy dysfunction can be too much to bear. Yet, I have a heavenly father who bears all things with me and gives me the strength, love, and wisdom to thrive, not just survive the holidays. 

Here are 8 GREAT biblical ways to THRIVE during the Holidays:

1.    Ephesians 6:3 says, “Honor your Father and mother, and it will go well with you.” Let’s think of the word honor as treating others better than yourself. One way we can do this is by sacrificially giving of our time, talents and treasures to those that we may feel are undeserving. Think of simple ways to honor the difficult people in your life during the holidays and love like Jesus did. Pick up the phone to call, write an encouraging note or even stop by to visit them. It will go well with you!

2.    Practice gratitude daily. The scriptures tell us to “give thanks in all circumstances” (1 Th 5:18). In your quiet time with the Lord, make a list of 5 things you are grateful for each day during the holidays.  Gratitude can be a salve for the soul and a quieting to dark thoughts this time of year.

3.    Before entering any type of gathering during the holidays, pray and invite Jesus to accompany you.  Jesus is with us wherever we go (Matthew 28:20), but take time to acknowledge His presence. You will be much more likely to say, think and act in ways that are pleasing to Him if you are aware He is with you.

4.    Put your efforts forth in being the hands and feet of Jesus. Serve others and explore ways to be present for those in need this season. Self-pity, isolation, sadness, or feelings of loneliness all dissipate when we are plugged into serving others. This could be as simple as serving Thanksgiving dinner at the homeless shelter to adopting a less fortunate family for Christmas. 

5.    Be in the word on a daily basis.  It may be tempting to let your bible study and quiet time go to the wayside during all the “busyness” of the season. On the contrary, this is the time of year when we need to cling to truth, refresh our souls in the Lord, and take in God’s word to refuel and keep our mind on things above. (Phil 4:8)

6.    Practice rest. With all the many things vying for your attention and time, take periods of rest for spiritual, mental, and physical renewal. Jesus encourages us in Matthew 11:28, “Come to me all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” Try meditating on scripture, taking a power nap, or being outside in God’s creation while being still.  

7.    Jesus reminds us in Matthew 5:44 to “Pray for those who persecute you.” Pray for family members and gatherings in which you feel will be difficult or challenging. If you experience anxiety, dread or resistance to being with certain people during the holidays, pray in advance for them. Pray for things you would desire yourself such as the Lord’s favor, love, joy, and good health.  This will soften your heart while cultivating peace.

8.    Celebrate what the holidays stand for, Jesus! Whatever our feelings are about the holidays, we can focus on what and who they are all about. Our loving Lord and Savior, the prince of peace, our sin sacrifice who came into the world so we can be free from the bondage of sin and have eternal life with Him.  Shifting perspective from ourselves to Him is reason alone to have true hope and joy this season!

Christ has come so we may have life and have it abundantly! (John 10:10) Believers have the mind of Christ and with prayer and some focused effort to think, act and live the way Jesus has called us to, the holidays can be an opportunity to thrive and live life to the full!

Til Death Do Us Part

I recently celebrated 19 years of marriage to my husband, Erich. Both of us often reflect how very, very far we have come both individually and as a couple. When we got married, I had an idea in the back of my mind that we could always get divorced if it didn't work out. I had a worldly perspective embracing splitsville whenever your marriage started to turn south. Think of the grass is the greener mentality, so live for you and whatever makes you happy. Friends, this is a dangerous lie to believe. In this life, we will have trials. Period.

The truth is God is FOR marriage. It is his design, his purpose and his creation (Gen 2: 18-25). The spouse you committed to spending the rest of your life with can be one of the greatest tools God uses to draw you closer to Him. My husband and I were going down different paths for many years of our marriage. We were so far from marital oneness that it seemed irreparable. Despite my anger, frustration, loneliness and overwhelming despair, I felt God calling me to Him. He wanted me to turn to Him for dependence, provision, comfort and his abounding love. As I surrendered to God, my despair slowly turned to joy despite my struggling partnership. I committed to working on my sin and while my husband did the same. The process of becoming a team was not overnight; it took many years. What gave me peace and hope beyond all understanding was the Lord. He gave me the strength to fight for my marriage while becoming the woman He created me to be.

Fast forward to the present. I could NEVER have imagined the love story playing out in my life. I am continually in awe of what has been restored. We enjoy spending time together, we co-parent well and enjoy our children, we have an abundant life with a beautiful community of friends. We practice humility with one another and ask for forgiveness when we do slip. There are so many positives, but what I really value is our level of communication and the desire to meet each other’s needs.

The reason we are blessed beyond all measure today is that we didn't buy into the lie that marriage is disposable. We acknowledged our sin, sought counsel, changed our hearts, and followed God. We continue to be intentional in our relationship, putting God at the head of it and coming alongside each other, being a helpmate instead of a hindrance.

Y'all Erich and I have a huge heart for marriage working. Erich and I will facilitate a group of married couples in Re-Engage this fall. We know what it is like to have one foot out the door. We also believe that God can make all things new and He is working for our good. If God is for you, who can be against you? (Ro 8: 31).

Your Insightful Life

Are you hurting in your marriage today? If so, take some time today to trust God is for you and your marriage. Replace fear with faith and take steps to get the counsel and help you need.


Father God, how I thank you for the design of marriage. I pray today you would bless my spouse. May we walk closer to you and trust you for all our needs regarding our marriage. Provide us with guidance and wisdom in our marriage, so we don't lean to our own understanding. In Jesus name, Amen.

* Re-engage is a no-cost ministry all over the world. It is a viable option for anyone whose marriage is falling apart or for couple’s that wish to strengthen their marriage.

Humility Begins When We Ask For Help

I remember a time when my marriage was falling apart, and I felt desperately alone and afraid. Despite the situation, I could not bear to tell anyone about my less than perfect life. The facade I had created was too good to strip down to reality. The reality was I needed help, and my marriage was holding on by a thread. Reluctantly, I shared my struggles with a friend from church who told me I needed to get some counseling. Although I heard her words, sadly I did not take them to heart. I was too proud. As scripture tells us, "pride comes before the fall"(Proverbs 16:18), which I experienced firsthand. As my life continued to spiral down, I finally reached out for help. I was humbled enough to realize I did not have a solution for fixing my marriage or climbing out of the pit of despair I was living in. 
Over the years, God has reminded me of the importance of being humble. Recently in my quiet time, he whispered to me, "humility begins when we ask for help." Today, being a source of counsel for others, I have found most people have to be in a great deal of pain to do something different in their lives. They have to get to a place of emotional, mental, and sometimes physical turmoil to be vulnerable enough to let someone else in. Matthew 23:12 says, "For those that exalt themselves will be humbled and those that humble themselves will be exalted." If we try to act like we have all the answers, are self-righteous and prideful then eventually we will be brought to our knees. However, if we approach life in humble surrender on our knees before God and acknowledge He has all power, then we are lifted up. He will bless us with divine guidance and insight while providing His supernatural strength and protection. His peace, love, and joy will flow like a river to our hearts.  From a seemingly low position, we can be rocketed to a place so spiritually high, gratitude and thanksgiving abound.
Simply put, humility begins when we see ourselves in right relation to God. 
Humility begins when we admit we don't have all the answers. 
Humility begins when we have a teachable spirit.
Humility begins when we right our wrongs.
Humility begins when we ask for help.
I am turning a corner in my life and beginning a new chapter as a biblical lay counselor for my church home, Christ Chapel Bible Church in Fort Worth. All those years ago, I would never dream God would use me in this capacity. I am humbled by how God wastes nothing in our lives and uses it all for his good.
I look forward to being a tiny part of someone's healing and recovery, someone who has the humility to reach out and ask for help. 

Your Insightful Life
If there are persistent and pressing issues in your life, maybe it is time for an honest and humble evaluation of your circumstances. Help and resources are abundant for anyone that earnestly seeks it. There is no time like the present to take the first step towards healing.

Lord Jesus, I pray for a spirit of humility. May I view my life with honest eyes and should there be any need for help or counsel, I ask for the courage to seek it out. In Jesus name, Amen.  

We Love Because He First Loved Us

Growing up in an alcoholic home created a lot of dysfunction, chaos, and trauma that I had to work through as an adult. With the love and hope I've received from Jesus Christ, 12 step recovery, biblical counseling and my mentors, healing has taken place. It's a beautiful place when you move through the pain and to come to a place of forgiveness and compassion. Despite the years of work I have invested in healing, the relationship with my dad continues to be challenging. Sadly, my dad has had a life filled with trauma and addiction. By his choice, he has never sought to heal or recover from it. Rather than sever the relationship with him, I have chosen to love him as he is. I once thought a genuine relationship with my father would be impossible. Yet, in Matthew 19:26 we learn, "With God all things are possible." Skeptical? I understand, so I have included my top three tools to love challenging individuals exactly where they are.

1- Create healthy boundaries so that your emotional needs are not compromised. For example, set time limits when visiting or talking to someone on the phone.  The truth is, difficult people can be taxing on your energy.  Ask yourself, "How much of my time am I willing to give to this person?" Set the time and stick with it.   

2- Create a list of "safe" topics for discussion. Come up with two to four light topics that feel neutral to conversate about. With my dad, we have an easygoing, enjoyable conversation centered around the weather, traveling, his dog, and fitness. Simplicity is key here! Practice saying less than you think and listening more than speaking. Remember to practice acceptance and let go of expectations of having a deep, fulfilling conversation.

3- Let it Begin with You! "We love because He first loved us"(1 John 4:19), is a call to initiate and extend Christ's love. Jesus loves us despite our sin. PERIOD. When we live this out in our own relationships, (troubled as they may be), we are empowered to love others. Even when we think they don't deserve it. This can be as straightforward as praying daily for the individual, sending a friendly text, mailing a card, or gifting them a service they like or need.

Our own hearts change when we think of love as an action and practice it. In dealing with challenging relationships we look to see where we can contribute in healthy ways without compromising being mistreated or hurt by the individual. When we practice loving others without expectation of reciprocation, forgiveness abounds. When we practice loving others, compassion takes hold of our hearts, and our lives are forever transformed for the better.

Your Insightful Life

Think of a specific relationship in your life you find challenging. A co-worker, neighbor, friend, or family member are all viable options. Pray for this person daily for a week. Then ask God to show you the next step in actively loving them exactly as they are.


Father God, thank you for loving us first.  Despite our ugly, sin-filled hearts you still want a relationship with us. May the love you so freely give us, transform the way we love those who challenge us relationally.  In Jesus name, Amen!

Everyone is a Winner!

My son's baseball team finished their last game of the season. As we gathered outside to hear the final game analysis from the coach, one of the players piped in.  "Where are our trophies?", He asked. The coach explained trophies are given to the first and second place team only. Our hardworking little team was in last place so there would be no trophy. With confused and disappointed looks on their faces, it was obvious to me these kids had become accustomed to participation trophies. In a society where everyone wants to be a winner, this got me thinking.  "Where in the world can we honestly say, EVERYONE is a winner?"   
And just as quickly as the question came, the answer came. JESUS!  With Jesus, everyone wins! Jesus loves and accepts the poor, needy, tired, broken, sick, hurting, lonely, addicted, abandoned, orphaned, last place people in the world. When the world looks at these people and says we don't want you, Jesus says "come to me." When we come to him, we win a prize bigger, brighter and better than any trophy made by man. In fact, the prize we win is salvation. Since Jesus does not discriminate, salvation is freely given to anyone who sincerely wants it. Salvation in Christ guarantees us a place with our heavenly father when our earthly bodies fade away. Imagine a perfect, sinless place with no evil, pain, sorrow, suffering or sickness . Imagine a place where there is only abundant love, joy and peace with riches aplenty.  Behold heaven, the land of milk and honey with streets of gold, a far more glorious place than we could ever imagine here on earth! The best part of heaven is that your soul will live there for eternity with your maker.  If this was your guarantee, why would you not take it?  

Your Insightful Life
Is heaven your destination? If you are unsure, take a leap of faith today and "win the prize which Christ Jesus has called us heavenward" Phil 3:14. By turning to Christ in faith and trusting in Jesus alone for your salvation, God's promise is yours, "Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life" John 3:36. 

Lord Jesus, I need you. Thank you for dying on the cross to pay the penalty for my sins. I ask forgiveness for my sins and receive you as my Savior and Lord. Thank you for giving me the gift of eternal life. I want to turn and live a new life with you as my Lord and Savior. Thank you, Jesus. Amen

Redefining Mother's Day

In a recent discussion, a question to Moms (of school-age children) came up. "What do you most want for Mother's Day?" Answers varied from gardening, catching up on sleep, watching a marathon of shows, staying in bed, going to a hotel solo, and having a housekeeper for a day. There were a variety of responses, but none of them said they desired to be with extended family, go to a buffet, be in a frenzy of activity all day, or even get flowers. Most of what I heard was, "For one day, I want some time to myself."  

A friend of mine in my small group bible study encouraged me last year. She said her Mom told her "Mother's Day is for you, spend it any way you want. You have earned it." Her mother graciously conveyed, we can celebrate Mother's Day on a different day. My mind was blown. You see, I have an old program in my mind telling me I have to do Mother's Day the same way year after year. Well, guess what? I have officially deleted that program and have installed a new one! Welcome Mother's Day version 2.0, which offers mamas choices and options! Whoo hoo, go ahead and celebrate ladies as you too can get this FREE upgrade on your special day! 

After much prayer and counsel, I realized it's okay for me to celebrate Mother's Day anyway I choose. I will lovingly honor the various "mothers" in my life on another day. I have learned over the years that anytime I go to do something (to give my time or talents), it needs to be for fun and for free. Meaning, I can't give to anyone or anything if it's laced with resentment. That is not being true to who I am. Like all of us, sometimes I feel my life is flying by 100 miles an hour. I need a day that permits me to spend it authentically. For me, that is slowing down and letting myself soak up all the beauty of life, whatever that looks like from year to year. I feel confident as my young children age, my idea of what Mother's Day looks like will change as well. For now, a simple day with my hubby and kids in conjunction with time set aside to be my own company sounds perfect!
Psalm 37:4 "Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart."
Your Insightful Life:
What type of Mother's Day do you truly desire? Can you be true to yourself and lovingly honor your family members as well? Take time to pray, write and reflect on where you are at this stage in your life as a mom.  Then practice setting an intention to do things differently the next holiday.  
God, thank you for making me a mother!  I appreciate the immense responsibility, time and effort it requires to care for and love my children well.  They are a blessing!  I pray that I may also take time to nurture my desires and take care of myself.  I pray that I may take a day to fill my cup with your love, wisdom, rest and a few simple pleasures. In Jesus name, Amen. 

The Desires of Your Heart

Two years ago I heard a sermon at church about art. My pastor said God reveals himself through creation with the use of art. This really struck a chord with me. In 2008, I made a decision to only teach Yoga and Pilates and forego my life as a dancer. Leaving this world behind has been good in many ways, but I realized I felt a longing of some sort . I began to pray regularly about the feelings I had. If this was God's plan for me to get connected to an artistic community, I needed Him to make it clear. 

One  month later, the Amon Carter Museum of American Art contacted me about creating a new program called Itty bitty Art: Yoga. We scheduled a time to meet and discuss details.  I met with three lovely ladies who were a part of the education department. There were several ideas and thoughts bouncing from one person to the next. I learned the purpose of my teaching would be to integrate an overall thematic from the artwork and weave it into a yoga practice for parents and babies. So when she nonchalantly said I was able to select a gallery of choice, (one that inspired me), I knew this was an answer to prayer. With my heart racing, I visualized myself teaching yoga surrounded by beautiful, authentic artwork.  I also learned I could promote my classes/teachings from PerfectFit to anyone who attended my classes at Amon Carter.  FYI- this is rare in the world I work in. Usually, cross promotion of your business is not aloud, so the potential of new students and exposure in the art community was a huge bonus! When I thought it couldn't get any better, we decided to do a photo shoot to create educational materials for the attendees of my classes. I silently squealed as photo shoots are something I LOVE to do. We finished the meeting with the proposed salary. I must have responded with a jaw drop, as it's the most I've been paid per class by another business! With a huge smile on my face, feeling humble and grateful, I gladly accepted this job!

God will meet the desires of your heart but it takes prayer, faithfulness and obediently walking with Him. He answered my prayer above and beyond what I was able to imagine, gifting me in ways I never expected. We are his children and as our Heavenly Father, He lavishes his love upon us freely. Only God could have orchestrated this dream to come true for me!

Your Insightful Life

Scripture tells us in Psalm 20:4, "May he grant your heart's desires and make all your plans succeed." Reflect. Do you believe God wants to meet the desires of your heart? What are some ways you have seen your plans succeed because of his great love and faithfulness towards you?


Dear Lord, You answer prayer as you see fit. I pray that I can align myself to your will so I can do the things you set before me. Although I may not be granted all my heart's desires, I trust you will bless me with the ones that put me on a path to success for your kingdom causes.  In Jesus name, Amen.

Navigating Life with Difficult People

Do you ever wish the difficult people in your life would magically disappear? I know I have. Let's face it; relationships can be challenging at best. Whether its family, co-workers, neighbors, (whoever comes to mind) there is a way to maintain inner peace and not let them get the best of you. Did you know challenging people are often our greatest spiritual teachers? So let's take an opportunity to learn from them and positively respond. 
As Christians, there are three virtues to bind to our hearts when dealing with difficult people, Grace, forgiveness, and love. I remember learning this in a biblical counseling class years ago.  Although it was challenging to implement at first (I was sure my difficult person(s) were a unique case), extending grace, forgiveness, and love was life-changing for me!  Let's take a closer look. 
•    Grace- Let's look at grace as getting what we don't deserve or unmerited favor. God extends grace to all followers of Christ regardless of their sin. With this example, we can do the same for others. Grace means you can look beyond the mistakes and wrongdoing of others by acknowledging they are a sinner who needs Christ. Just like we all do. In fact, the greatest biblical example of grace is the free gift of salvation through Jesus Christ. (John 1:14).
•    Forgiveness- We forgive because the Lord forgave us. (Col. 3:13). Even if the person whom you believe was in the wrong never makes direct amends, you can still forgive. Having a spirit of forgiveness is a personal choice, releasing the bondage of anger, bitterness, and resentment. It's important to realize we do it for us, not for the other person. We find freedom mentally, spiritually and emotionally when choose to forgive. Try praying this daily, "Bless ________(person's name) and change my heart Lord," for 30 days.  Watch what happens!
•    Love- When dealing with difficult people, it may seem natural to want to withdraw your love and affection. The bible is clear we are to love our neighbor as ourselves. (Leviticus 19:18). Detaching with love is a simple tool to remove yourself from a difficult person or situation. With healthy boundaries set in place, you can have a relationship without having to sever it. Detaching with love may look like sending a card to someone on their birthday rather than going to their home for celebratory dinner. The gesture is warm and kind, without physically putting yourself in proximity to the challenging person. Technology is terrific for practicing detachment with love.  Some simple ideas include sending texts with scripture, sending photos of a recent milestone, or posting an interesting article on someone's social media page. The point is to keep it short, positive and uplifting, without having to physically engage.  
Practicing grace, forgiveness, and love may not come quickly. With practice, it can be an automatic response to difficult people in your life. Pray for the courage, willingness, and strength to apply. Difficult people will always be present in your life; it is up to you to develop a new way of dealing with them.  
Your Insightful Life
Is there a challenging relationship in your life? Pray and ask God to help your manifest grace, forgiveness, and love towards them. Prayerfully, do this for two weeks and see if your heart towards them softens.  
Father God, we know you created us for relationships, from the simple to the challenging. Help us to see difficult relationships as an opportunity to be more like you Jesus.  As we extend grace, forgiveness, and love, may it become a natural response to our spirits. Thank you for always extending these virtues to us as we walk with you daily.  

Speak the Truth in Love

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One of the most profound spiritual experiences I've had related to the way I spoke to my husband. Years ago, our marriage was in a deep, dark pit. I was extremely angry and felt the whole mess we were in was his fault. Typical of this time, a heated argument fired up. I began an enraged rant, pointing the finger and criticizing. After my tantrum, I shut myself off in our bedroom. I put on my crown of martyrdom while sobbing and pleading "Lord help me."  Within moments, I heard the continual chiming of a bell. Dumbfounded, I looked at my four-legged friend with his pricked ears, and head cocked. I realized my dog heard the chime too, so it wasn't my imagination. I looked around the room and spotted my bible on the nightstand and grabbed it. As the chiming continued, I felt lead to finding a passage relating to bells. I came upon the word "gong," in the passage 1 Corinthians 13:1. "If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal." As soon as I read the passage, the chiming stopped. I felt as if I had been hit by a ton of bricks as my eyes opened to my sin. The words I spoke to my husband were anything but loving, more like venom. As the scripture says, words without love come off as a "clanging cymbal," falling on deaf ears. I realized for my words to be heard, I needed heart change and repentance. Since that time, I discovered the bible is full of scripture regarding our speech. God cares about what comes out of our mouths. In fact, scripture tells us "out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks" (Luke 6:45). Proverbs 16:24 says "Kind words are like honey-sweet to the soul and healthy for the body." For me, I imagine my words spoken in a calm and gentle voice as being sweet to my husband's soul and healthy for our marriage.  
Friends, this lesson goes beyond our spouses. It applies to our children, family members, and relationships. Our words have the power to build up or tear down. They can bless or curse. Have you ever listened to your tone of voice when speaking to your spouse or loved ones? Does it come from a place of loving kindness or gentleness? Or rather a place of anger, self-righteousness, or condemnation?  Do you speak with restraint or say everything that comes to mind? If any of this resonates, it is time to exam your heart and implement change.  

Your Insightful Life
Take time this week to hear yourself speak in regards to your spouse, children or any loved ones you encounter. What message does your tone, pitch, and body language convey? Become aware of your ability to lift up and encourage with your speech. Envision your words as being sweet, healthy gifts to bestow upon a loved one.  

Dear Jesus,  thank you that your word reminds us the importance of speaking with love. Forgive me when I am speaking in anger or self-righteousness. I pray that I may employ opportunities to speak to those I care about with a gentle, kind and loving tone.  I pray that when I do, my words would be sweet to the ears that hear it.  In your name, Amen.

Your Body is a Temple-Part 2 of MInd/Body Health

Insightful Life- Mind, Body, Spirit

In my last blog, I revealed the truth about my health in my early 20's. During this time, I had two life-changing events. First, and most importantly, I gave my life to Christ. This opened the door to insurmountable hope, unconditional love, everlasting peace and boundless joy. Second, I discovered Yoga. Yoga opened my mind to receiving various healing therapies. Slowly (this is key), I began to implement life change.  I intended to be the healthiest version of myself possible. The journey has been challenging, hard, and often painful.  However, I see God has a better plan for my life, motivating me to move forward. Hear this truth; There is a better plan and path for each of us.  Jeremiah 28:11 validates this. "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

I've had extensive training/certifications in yoga, Pilates, meditation, trauma/healing in movement therapy, mentoring and leadership, Christ-centered recovery, biblical lay counseling, and utilize a naturopathic approach to wellness. I believe true health is achieved in the realm of Mind, body, and spirit. Be mindful; this is not a comprehensive list but an excellent starting point. All of the suggestions below are with the assumption you're currently getting adequate rest and eating a healthy diet. 

Let's dive in and take a look!


·        Are you aware of your thinking? Awareness is the first step to making lasting changes in our thoughts. Guard against criticism, negativity, and judgment of yourself or others. Gratitude is the antidote to habitual negative thinking. Make a daily list of 5 things for which are grateful.

·        Affirm your life, health, and speak truth over your mind. Create statements that say "I am ____, or I have____ " Fill in the blank with peace, joy, love, health. The bible is full of scriptures that help us win the battle of the mind. Here are some of my favorites: 2 Timothy 1:7, 1 Corinthians 2:16, Romans 12:2. Tape them up where you can see them, carry them on note cards and memorize them. 


·        Move your body for what season of life you are in now. There is a type of movement for everyone at every age and stage of our life. Group classes are great for accountability and community. Personal training helps with specific physical results, out-door power walks are great for nature lovers, and workout videos can be helpful for those with time constraints. Once you find what works for you, commit and stay consistent. There are no excuses not to move; in fact, we were divinely created to do so.

·        Practice Yoga. Those who consistently practice Yoga are doing their body a favor. There are dozens of types of yoga so find one that suits you. Regular Yoga practitioners age better, have fewer injuries, have decreased aging issues (i.e., arthritis or dementia), greater flexibility, better balance, less stress, sharper focus and memory, and sleep well. Yogis also have elevated self-awareness and are mindful, making it easier to encompass a mind, body, spirit approach to living.


·        Pray- Be at one with God in Prayer. Prayers are the most powerful tool we have to connect ourselves to God.  You can pray anytime and as often as you like. Sometimes a prayer as simple as "help me God" or "thank you God " is sufficient.  If you are new to prayer, here are a few of my favorites.  The Serenity Prayer, St. Francis Prayer, The Lord's Prayer

·        Meditate- Prayer is talking to God and meditation is listening to God. God is in the still, quiet moments. There are a variety of ways to meditate. You can use scripture, affirmations (Philippians 4:8) , breathing, or moving meditations like walking in silence. This is a practice, so take time to explore it daily.  Start with a minimal amount of time (5 minutes) and gradually increase.  Setting a timer can be helpful so you can focus on the meditation. 

Finally, it's essential to remember lasting change happens gradually. I suggest you take one to two ideas off of this list (the ones that resonate with you most) and begin to implement them consistently.  Once you are regularly practicing your top two picks, then add another. Continue until you are working each of the above daily. Focus on progress, not perfection.  Do what you can and celebrate the victories.  Often, one small change leads to another.  Before you know it, you are building momentum and moving forward.   

Your Insightful Life

Now it is time to take action! Where are you going to dive in and start? Write down what tool you plan to pick up and implement.  Chart your progress as you go along, highlighting the successes. 


Dear Lord, I am ready to make lasting change in my life.  I am prepared to look at my health regarding mind, body, and spirit. Please give me the willingness, strength, and courage to be successful in this new journey.  I want to take care of the temple you gave me.  In your name, I pray, Amen.  



Your Body is a Temple- Part 1 of Mind, Body, Health

Don't you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? 1 CO 6:19

I haven't always treated my body with love, respect, and kindness. I haven't always spoken words of affirmation to myself, ate healthily, rested enough, or taken time to meditate and pray.  I haven't always exercised in a balanced way. Honestly, there was a time in my life when I abused the body God gave me. 

Let's start off with how I ate.  I had no boundaries with food. There were periods of time when I ate too much and purged or I restricted myself and ate hardly anything. Occasionally, I took diet pills and drank diet shakes instead of having a meal. I regularly ate processed, junk and fast food. I drank diet sodas and alcohol often and sometimes excessively. In essence, the things I put into my body were damaging. On top of that, my exercise regimen was extreme. I chose movement as a profession, so I worked out for hours at a time.  I was a dance instructor, taught fitness, and worked out at a gym. As a result, I felt as if I was running on fumes most days. 

Sadly, my mental state was not any better. I had little to no awareness of my thoughts. I was constantly berating myself with criticism, doubt and unkind words. I would not say to another person the things I used to say to myself. Looking back I see the irony of it all. My insides did not match my outsides. Meaning, what you saw in my appearance was a far cry from what was going on inside. I was the master of illusion and painstakingly wanted you to believe I had my life together. I was a 5 3' and weighed 105 lbs. I wore a size zero, was tan, blonde, dressed to impress, and always smiling. Only in this way, could I comfortably hide behind the mask of perfectionism.  

As for spirituality and a connection to God, I had none. The extent of my spirituality was reading a horoscope.  In all reality, I was an agnostic. I was not raised with any religious beliefs and I often sneered and made fun of those that had a belief system...especially Christians. For years, God tugged at my heart but I refused. Deep down inside I was often lonely even though I was in a relationship and had countless friends. Deep down inside there was a continuous longing for something more. I often wondered "Is this all there is to life?"

Fast forward two decades. Today, one of my greatest passions is guiding women to honor, love and respect the body God gave them. This takes a lot of courage, effort and focus on the individuals part. It takes awareness of the choices you are making and willingness to change and do things differently. I believe it is important to look at health and wellness in the terms of mind, body, spirit. A new year is a great time to focus on our health. I believe if we address health mentally, physically and spiritually then we can set ourselves up to thrive and do well. We can make and implement change that will last.   

I look forward to sharing a two-part series in January on Mind, Body and Spiritual health. This will be a simple, applicable "how to" in regards to honoring and loving the body and mind God gave you. Just thinking about this gets me super excited and hopeful! There is a better way to approaching health and wellness. All you need is a willing spirit and some new tools to put in your tool belt. I look forward to meeting up with you again and getting started on our first step to the BEST relationship you will ever have! The one with you! 

Seeking God First

Seeking God First

In 2010, I planned a wonderful vacation to Rosemary Beach in Florida, one of the most beautiful beaches in the world. At the time, I had a 14-month-old son whom from the moment of his birth was very difficult. The everyday woes of motherhood were absolutely exhausting and way more demanding than I had ever expected.